A New Year brings emphasis onto new habits. Resolutions are made, goals are set; and new, better, healthier lives are imagined. But the reality is, old habits are hard to just stop doing. January 1st doesn’t mean everything “bad” or undesirable that you have been doing for the past umpteen years stops.
January 1st is as fresh a start as you are willing to commit to for three hundred and sixty five days.
A goal of mine, for many years now, is to think less about work in my own free time. Mastered it on Jan 1st, until about 5pm and then the back to work thoughts and quiet dread started to creep in. While at work on the 2nd I did okay. And now? Not even been at work a whole week, and it is already infiltrating my thoughts in my own free time.
But am I going to give up? Throw the towel in and cave into the familiarity and comfort of old habits. You bet your bottom dollar I won’t.
When I notice I have gone off on a tangent, ranting in my head about work this, my manager that or who doesn’t know what they are talking about. I ask myself, calmly and quietly,”Andrea. Is what you are thinking about right now going to help you get to your goals?” The answer will undoubtedly be no. So I say “then stop thinking about it. And think about something that will help you get to your goals.”
Change is all about perspective. If you change your perspective, you can change your life.
It is unrealistic to believe you can change your habits in one day, one week or even a month. Because the really deep rooted habits aren’t really habits, they are a lifestyle. And to change a lifestyle takes commitment. It’s hard and uncomfortable. But once it’s changed you don’t just feel good now, you feel good forever and have the added belief that you can do anything.
That’s why I am setting myself goals for the whole year. Because I don’t just want to feel good today tomorrow and the next day. I want to feel good, be good and live good for many years to come.
Invest in new habits
Don’t just stop doing your old habits replace them with new ones. Habits that will get you to where you want to be in a year, 5 years, 10 years. Think about the what habits do you need to adopt to get there? What habits do you need to drop? What lifestyle changes do you need to make?
Give yourself a realistic time frame to achieve it, “by the end of the year I will…” and practice the new habits you want to adopt everyday, it’s they only way they will take root and become apart of your lifestyle.
If I can see it in my mind, I can hold it in my hand.